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Communication at the Beginning of a Relationship

One thing daters struggle with at the beginning of a relationship is the amount of communication that is 'appropriate'. The reality is it comes down to what is appropriate for the two of you and what works for each individuals personality. Some couples text all day while others text twice a week and in both these instances the communication works and the daters are happy. 

Therefore the first thing to take into consideration is your partners' personality'. Is the person in an exceptionally busy job? Is the person an introvert or an extrovert? Is the person a verbose texter or prone to one word replies? Communication style has no bearing on the amount of interest your partner has on you but it is important to establish what works and what doesn't. Many women believe in the thrill of the chase and leave it up to men to initiate communication. However, it is important to remember that the other person needs reassurance that you are actually interested in establishing a relationship. So men and women alike need to make it a point to initiate communication instead of waiting around for them to get in touch with you. Ultimately, again it is communication style and personality that is the determining factor in how much communication to expect when you are first dating. If the other person is quiet and introverted, then don't expect frequent texts - and especially don't expect phone calls. On the other end of the spectrum, text messaging several times a day is not overwhelming if the person is naturally very talkative and social. It's important to understand where the person is coming from. 

Lastly, TALK TO YOUR PARTNER. Maybe they need constant communication- maybe they don't. There is no shame and much to gain by coming right out and having a frank conversation about communication style and what your partner prefers - and if it's something you can deliver. 


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